Days of the Eids -1-
The virtue of the days of the Eids is great. The nights that come after the first, the second, and the third days of Eid al-Adha are termed the nights of Eid al-Adha. The night that is between the last day of the holy month of Ramadan and the first day of Eid al-Fitr is termed the night of Eid al-Fitr.
It is declared in hadith-i sharifs:
(Whoever spends the nights of Eid a-Fitr and Eid al-Adha doing righteous deeds [such as engaging in acts of worship, knowledge …], his heart will not die on the day when hearts die.) [Ibn Maja, Tabarani]
(The gates of Compassion are opened on four nights. Supplications and repentance done on these nights will not be refused. [They are] the first nights of Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha, the night of Barat [the fifteenth night of Sha’ban], and the night of Arafa.) [Isfahani]
(Supplications done on five nights will not be refused: the night of Raghaib, the night of Barat, the night of Friday, the nights of Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha.) [Ibn ‘Asakir]
It is sunnat to do the following things on the days of the Eids: to get up early, to make a ghusl (ritual washing), to clean the teeth with miswak, to put on fragrant scents, to wear new and clean clothes, to manifest that you are happy, to wear a ring, to greet the Believers you meet with a smiling face, to give alms generously to the poor, to give help to those who are working to disseminate the true Islam, to reconcile those who are cross with one another, to visit your relatives and Muslim brothers, and to give them presents. At Eid al-Fitr, it is sunnatto eat sweetmeat before the namaz of Eid al-Fitr, to eat dates, to eat an odd number of them (like 1, 3, 5 …), and to prefer to do things in odd numbers. It is declared in a hadith-i sharif:
(Allahu ta’ala is one, and He loves a person who prefers to do things in odd numbers.) [Bukhari]
We should be happy and cheerful on the days of the Eids. When Hadrat Abu Bakr went to the house of our mother Aisha, his daughter, he saw two jariyas (female slaves) dancing by playing a tambourine. They were eulogizing the heroic actions of the Blessed Companions and were reciting an epic. Thereupon, Hadrat Abu Bakr stated that it was not appropriate to do so in the house of the Messenger of Allah and told them to stop it. Our Master the Prophets said to Hadrat Abu Bakr, “Do not prevent them! Every nation has an Eid, and this is ours. Eids are the days of happiness” (Bukhari).
Those who are cross with one another should be reconciled immediately without waiting for the Eids because a person who loves Allahu ta’ala and our Master the Prophet does not see the faults of people and is tolerant toward them. A good person, that is, a Believer, gets on well with everybody. He/she never causes others trouble and endures the trouble caused by them.
We should not become cross with anyone. When we become angry or offended with another person, this state should not last for more than three days. If it has lasted until the Eids, reconciliation should be achieved without any more delay. As a matter of fact, it is declared inhadith-i sharifs:
(It is not permissible for a person to become cross with his brother-in-Islam for more than three days. If he comes upon him after three days, he should give greetings [salam] to him and ask him how he is. If the latter returns his greetings, they will share the reward. Otherwise, the sin will be recorded for the latter. The one who gives greetings is absolved of the responsibility for being cross with him.) [Abu Dawud]
(Deeds are presented to Haqq ta’âlâ [Allahu ta’ala] on Mondays and Thursdays, and He forgives all people who do not attribute a partner to Him. But those who hold grudges against one another cannot become beneficiaries of this forgiveness. Janab-i Haqq[Allahu ta’ala] says, “Do not bring their deeds to Me until they are reconciled.”) [Imam-i Malik]
(Do not sever ties between one another! Do not turn your back on one another! Do not nurse hatred and animosity toward one another! Do not be jealous of one another! O the servants of Allah, be brothers [or sisters]. It is not halal [lawful] for a Muslim to forsake his brother-in-Islam by becoming cross with him for more than three days.) [Bukhari]
(He who becomes cross with a Muslim for more than three days will go to Hell.) [Nasai]
(Of the two people who are cross with each other, whoever gives greetings [salam] first, his sins will be forgiven. If the second party does not return his greetings, then angels will return his greetings. Thereupon, Satan will gladly compliment the one who has not returned the greetings.) [Ibn Abi Shayba]
(If two people become cross with each other and die in this state, they cannot enter Paradise without seeing Hell. Even if they enter Paradise, they cannot meet each other.) [Ibn Hibban]
(He who becomes cross with his brother-in-Islam for a year incurs a sin as if he killed him.) [Bayhaqi]
We celebrate Eid al-Fitr not because Ramadan has passed, but because our sins have been forgiven and we have attained rewards and blessings. It is declared in a hadith-i sharif:
(When Muslims gather in mosques for the salat in the morning of the Eid, Allahu ta’ala asks angels, “What is the reward for a person who has completed his task?” Angels answer, “To receive a payment.” Thereupon, Allahu ta’ala says, “Then bear witness that I gave My servants My own pleasure and forgiveness in return for their fasts and salats in Ramadan. O My servants, ask for anything you wish from Me today. By My Honor and Glory, I will grant you whatever you ask for.) [Bayhaqi]
When our master the Prophet stated, “Allahu ta’ala forgives fasting people on the last day of Ramadan,” the Blessed Companions asked him, “O Messenger of Allah, is that day the night of Qadr?” Our master the Prophet answered, “Don’t you know that when a person renders a service he gets paid after completing it” (Bayhaqi).
Hadrat Ali stated, “Today is the Eid of those whose fasts have been accepted, whose services have been rewarded, and whose sins have been forgiven.” A hadith-i sharif says, “In Ramadan, Allahu ta’ala forgives the sins of all people except the sins of four groups of people: those who go on drinking, those who are disobedient to their parents, those who abandon silat-ur-rahm [upholding ties of kinship; visiting and helping relatives], and those who despair of becoming Believers” (Ghunya).
If they make repentance, Allahu ta’ala forgives their sins. If people knew the rewards that are given in Ramadan, they would wish that everyday were a day of Ramadan. It is declared in a hadith-i sharif, “If the special rewards in Ramadan were known, it would be wished that the whole year were Ramadan” (Abu Nasr).
Happy are those who fast by abstaining from sins. They will celebrate the real Eid in the Hereafter.